Ohhhhh this one hurt, but thank you for sharing. The idea that even when you were injured she would make you feel bad about your body floors me. I think for all women of our generation weight is a struggle, but fat black bodies have always been treated the worst. I hope you are able to tell yourself the body that got you this far is a. perfect as it is and b. worthy!
Thank you so much Jade, I will definitely try to tell myself both of those things. I also agree with you 100% when it comes to weight struggles for women of our generation, and how fat black bodies are always treated the worst. It means a lot that you took the time to read my experience and respond - thank you xx
Hi Chloe, I just want to give you a big hug! Growing up during the 90's/2000 was not for the weak. Seeing how society treated women in media was awful and I can't believe it was allowed. I always thought my mum didn't like me as I reminded her of what she used to look like when she was younger. I used to get "when I was your age, I was a lot skinnier than you". I could go on but don't want to trauma dump here! A term that I was taught was "body neutrality" - it feels like it's acceptance for what your body is designed for - keeping you alive! It helps a lot, still have a lot of ups and downs but getting there. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful, honest piece of work as always!
Thank you Ronke - big hug accepted, and you are always welcome to share your trauma here - always. I really appreciate you sharing the similar experiences you had with your own mum, too. I can definitely see how embracing body neutrality and celebrating what your body is designed to do, can help in this context. That feels like a powerful shift. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for reading my piece xx
Ohhhhh this one hurt, but thank you for sharing. The idea that even when you were injured she would make you feel bad about your body floors me. I think for all women of our generation weight is a struggle, but fat black bodies have always been treated the worst. I hope you are able to tell yourself the body that got you this far is a. perfect as it is and b. worthy!
Thank you so much Jade, I will definitely try to tell myself both of those things. I also agree with you 100% when it comes to weight struggles for women of our generation, and how fat black bodies are always treated the worst. It means a lot that you took the time to read my experience and respond - thank you xx
Hi Chloe, I just want to give you a big hug! Growing up during the 90's/2000 was not for the weak. Seeing how society treated women in media was awful and I can't believe it was allowed. I always thought my mum didn't like me as I reminded her of what she used to look like when she was younger. I used to get "when I was your age, I was a lot skinnier than you". I could go on but don't want to trauma dump here! A term that I was taught was "body neutrality" - it feels like it's acceptance for what your body is designed for - keeping you alive! It helps a lot, still have a lot of ups and downs but getting there. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful, honest piece of work as always!
Thank you Ronke - big hug accepted, and you are always welcome to share your trauma here - always. I really appreciate you sharing the similar experiences you had with your own mum, too. I can definitely see how embracing body neutrality and celebrating what your body is designed to do, can help in this context. That feels like a powerful shift. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for reading my piece xx