Oh Chloe, this really broke my heart. I can't imagine what it must have been like to plan your wedding and simultaneously dread it because you feared what would happen, and then all those fears coming to fruition. It got me thinking about a couple of weddings I've been to where parents have given speeches and almost flat-out refused to say a kind word about their daughters. One honestly did a speech listing their daughter's personal failures and I thought they were going to turn it round at the end and say "but she turned out to be a great person" and that part just... Never came. It shows how narcissistic parents are not just hurting you, they're hurting themselves by not taking the opportunities to have the genuine bonding moments with their kids and family.
I'm glad you can look back at this with some distance and understand you were in no way to blame for any of it! And I hope you have lots of lovely memories from the day too.
Thank you so so much Jade and thank you for sharing those speeches you witnessed. It always makes me feel so sad when I hear just how many people have narcissistic parents, or parents with traits of narcissism; however it is a comfort to know I’m not alone and that others can relate to what I’ve experience, or have seen the behaviour first-hand. I’m thankful I have that distance now to discuss what happened and I definitely have many wonderful memories from the day too. Thank you for wishing that for me, and for giving me this chance to share that is the case ❤️
Chloe, I'm so proud of you for the active work you do about parental narcissistic abuse. Your mother's behaviour is NEVER a reflection on you, although it's hard not to feel it when you experience it in real time. Thank you for the book recommendation too, it's now added onto my book wishlist!
Oh Chloe, this really broke my heart. I can't imagine what it must have been like to plan your wedding and simultaneously dread it because you feared what would happen, and then all those fears coming to fruition. It got me thinking about a couple of weddings I've been to where parents have given speeches and almost flat-out refused to say a kind word about their daughters. One honestly did a speech listing their daughter's personal failures and I thought they were going to turn it round at the end and say "but she turned out to be a great person" and that part just... Never came. It shows how narcissistic parents are not just hurting you, they're hurting themselves by not taking the opportunities to have the genuine bonding moments with their kids and family.
I'm glad you can look back at this with some distance and understand you were in no way to blame for any of it! And I hope you have lots of lovely memories from the day too.
Thank you so so much Jade and thank you for sharing those speeches you witnessed. It always makes me feel so sad when I hear just how many people have narcissistic parents, or parents with traits of narcissism; however it is a comfort to know I’m not alone and that others can relate to what I’ve experience, or have seen the behaviour first-hand. I’m thankful I have that distance now to discuss what happened and I definitely have many wonderful memories from the day too. Thank you for wishing that for me, and for giving me this chance to share that is the case ❤️
Chloe, I'm so proud of you for the active work you do about parental narcissistic abuse. Your mother's behaviour is NEVER a reflection on you, although it's hard not to feel it when you experience it in real time. Thank you for the book recommendation too, it's now added onto my book wishlist!
Sending you so much love and light 💓
Thank you so so much 💖